Chapter XVII

because you never know someone from the very beginning


April 2007

Jayhawk Poet

Once again, more inspiration from Light Skinned-ed Girl.  She has paid a tribute to the poet, William Stafford, by posting his work You Reading This, Be Ready, on her blog.  He is from Kansas, and happened to go to KU….perhaps this is partly why I feel connected to him since practically my entire mother’s family, including my mom, went to KU.  Go Jayhawks!

Take a read.  May want to bookmark this one:

You Reading This, Be Ready

Starting here, what do you want to remember?
How sunlight creeps along a shining floor?
What scent of old wood hovers, what softened
sound from outside fills the air?

Will you ever bring a better gift for the world
than the breathing respect that you carry
wherever you go right now? Are you waiting
for time to show you some better thoughts?
When you turn around, starting here, lift this
new glimpse that you found; carry into evening
all that you want from this day. This interval you spent
reading or hearing this, keep it for life –
What can anyone give you greater than now,
starting here, right in this room, when you turn around?
~ William Stafford ~

Potted Plants and Poetry and Stuff

April is National Poetry Month.  I happen to be a big poetry fan, and so am thrilled every year when various poetry organizations email out a poem a day in April.

In reading a poem today – not one from the official orgs, but from 37Days, a verse caught my eye.  It’s as follows:

"And I noticed my new best friend — by now we were
holding hands —

Had a potted plant poking out of her bag, some
medicinal thing,

With green furry leaves. Such an old country traveling
tradition. Always

Carry a plant. Always stay rooted to somewhere."

I believe it’s a Palestinian tradition…could be wrong about that.  In any event, I like traditions as much as I like poems, and this one is worth noting. 

I Love eBates

Just a little recommendation.  I started using eBates not too long ago and think it’s one of the best tools out there.  I could blast all my friends with their Tell A Friend message, but that might be a tad obnoxious.  I am a fan of free money, and eBates is FREE MONEY.  Woo hoo!

It only adds one step to the process of online shopping.  Example: rather than starting at start at  From there go to Saks, shop as you normally would and lo and behold, a check arrives at your house a few months later with cash back from your purchase.  Oh yeah, and it has a nifty little pop up (I normally hate pop ups – this one is actually useful) that lists other promo codes for the store where you are shopping.  Badabing. 

And no, I am not getting paid for this!  I am simply recommending a cool service.  There is a lot of crap out there, and when I see something really great, I want to talk about it.

Bullshit Balls

Have you heard of these "Purity Balls" being held around the country?  Info here.  Are you starving for a ticket?  Perhaps you are out shopping for a snowy white dress right now for your innocent daughter.

The pictures on the site are downright creepy.  Weird men surrounded by their doting daughters.  Good luck, everyone.  Tell your kids sex is bad and you will be tainted forever if you have it.  Oh yeah, you are evil too.  That’s the way to keep them "pure."

This type of thing just perpetuates stereotypes about women and girls.    It’s clearly not possible to teach girls how to lead healthy sex lives, or perhaps abstain because the guys who are trying to get in their pants are well, like typical teenage guys.  What about trying to build their self confidence through positive means?  Making them realize they don’t need to have sex with some crater faced putz to be worthwhile.  No no, tell her she’s UNPURE if she decides to have sex.  Fire and brimstone. 

And dare I ask, what do these same folks teach their sons?  Well I bet a WHOLE LOTTA NOTHIN because little dude is not even around for the lecture, he is out trying to impregnate half the neighborhood.  No matter, if teenagers have sex, it’s the GIRL’S fault.  She is the one who took the vow of purity, right?  Right. 

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