Chapter XVII

because you never know someone from the very beginning


December 2007

What does the KID want?

Sitting on one side of my desk is a cinnamon roll.  On the other side, an apple.  Imagine Jeopardy music playing in the background…which one to take.  But it’s really not about what I want, now is it.  It’s about what the kid wants!  Yes, that is right.  It’s what the KID wants.  And the kid, being a kid, would love the cinnamon roll right now.  Well then, it is the cinnamon roll that the kid shall have.

So glad I don’t have to make these decisions for myself.  It’s really all about the KID.

Rule to Live By

There are disciplined people, and undisciplined people.  There are people who are highly structured and less structured.  I am not always sure which side of these camps I fall into but I realized the other day, I have a few rules I live by.  I am sure there are many others, but here are a few that come to mind:

  • I never run for subways.  I like to remain confident that another train will come shortly and running can only bring harm.  Related to this, I think all people who insist on holding subway doors so their friends can run into the car should be fined.  Holding the doors may not seem like a big deal, but it begins the domino effect of subway delays that we all bitch about.
  • I don’t wait in line for eggs.  New York brunches are a big Saturday and Sunday morning tradition.  There are several places that are always jam packed…for what reason, I do not know (a few names come to mind: EJ’s, Bubby’s…I think recently closed for health violations, and Sarabeth’s).  "Four for brunch?" "Of course, that will be 45 minutes."  Ummm, no thanks.  It’s EGGS people. 
  • I also rarely wait in line for cupcakes.  Magnolia cupcakes are great, but line-worthy?  Not so sure.
  • I obey the unstated rules of taxi hailing.  For example, if you see someone on the south corner a south moving NYC street waiting for a taxi, it is very bad play to step onto the north corner to try to grab a cab before they do.  It’s like butting in front of someone in line.  Rude rude rude!
  • If I won’t worry about something in a year, I try not to stress about it now. 
  • When packing for travel, biggest shoes go on feet.  This is a rule from a friend of mine and it makes a bag lighter and allows for more efficient packing.  Good rule.
  • No talking in movies!  I hate movie talkers.  This may be more of a pet peeve than a rule.
  • I don’t pay a lot for something, say a pair of shoes or a piece of furniture, that is easy, readily and well knocked off by Nine West, Banana or Crate and Barrel.
  • I try everything on a plate.  I may not like it, but at least I have tried it.
  • It’s OK to rest.  I know a lot of people who say they "cannot relax".  Pity them!  I like relaxing, am pretty good at it, and think I am all the better for it.
  • All excess in moderation.  I heard this from a bartender last night at the Union Square Cafe and want to make t-shirts that say this.  I think it’s brilliant.  All excess in moderation.  As Auntie Mame would say, "Live live live!"

A few notes on a Monday in December

Welcome to the holidays!

We have been crazy busy with life in general (and again, I know it’s about to get much crazier with a kid on the way).  What’s been going on?

I am now in month three of major all consuming congestion.  Apparently this is part of some pregnancies.  I am beginning to think pregnancy is the cause of many unexplainable phenomenon…too hot?  Pregnant.  Feet hurt?  Pregnant.  Dying for orange marmalade?  Pregnant.  No money?  Pregnant!  It’s like how I was blaming global warming for everything a while ago.  So the congestion – ugh.  The most pleasant way to describe it is I feel like a fountain…maybe the Trevi Fountain (what a fountain!).

We are in the apartment in Brooklyn (woohoo!) and need to buy a ton of furniture.  I am now best friends with Crate, Room and Board, various antique stores etc.  It’s where we spend all of our time on weekends.  Any questions about such places?  Send me a note.

A person I know just died.  Died of cancer.  It’s a big loss.  I know him through work.  He was young – late 40s.  Another reminder to appreciate life.  Do something today to appreciate life.  And don’t be a nudge today – give up on honking at strangers, let things go, put a smile on your face and be glad you are here. 

In keeping with the issue above, have you ever noticed that a lot of Christmas music is sad?  I can never listen to "I’ll Be Home for Christmas" without tearing up.

Anyway, the only thing that really matters today is the appreciate life thing.  Tell someone you love them.  Go skating.  Eat a cookie and appreciate every bite. 

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